I am at a wedding dinner when I receive a phone call from a neighbor.
“I hate to interrupt your date, but your son has been tying boys up and locking them in the tree house and telling them they have to remove their pants if they want out. Torture was done away with in this country.”
I apologized profusely and assured her it would never happen again.
I had to excuse myself to the restroom to collect myself.
After dinner I was still angry and it dawned on me. I wasn’t angry because of what she was accusing my kid of. I was angry because I was so quick to agree. I instantly sold my kid out.
How did she know what had happened in our tree house? Her accusations were based on one allegation. There is a window that they could climb out to the deck. My child is also the tiniest of them all. Is he really capable of tying them up and holding them against their will?
Just two weeks ago there were several boys in our front yard and they were tying each other up. I told them to knock it off several times and then had to take the rope away. I am not 100% convinced this was my son’s idea and all were willing participants.
My kids are far from perfect. They make mistakes all the time. I also know that kids will be kids. As an adult I understand this.
I guess my beef is the fact that parents would resort to tattling as a solution. It just seems so middle school to me.
I’m not sure what happened. I was watching them, but didn’t witness the things he was accused of. We questioned Little Man and he denied most of it. We collected as many facts as possible and then took a visit to our neighbor’s house.
I was not prepared for the outcome. Both boys were accusing him of these acts. It was clearly two against one and our son was lying.
Parenting is so exhausting.
And the drama that accompanies it is even more exhausting.
I have a child that is socially broken. He can’t get along with others, is mean and hurtful, makes ridiculous choices, and then lies about them.
Before I close I just want to thank Gigi from http://fiveamazingminutes.blogspot.com/. Yesterday I read her Friday Flip-offs. Not only did it provide some much needed laughs, it allowed me a forum to release some of my built up angst when I felt I couldn’t on my own blog. I don’t know if I will snag this idea or not, but it’s definitely worth checking it out. Brilliant!
Update (since I first wrote this):
Little Man wrote two letters of apology, one to each boy. He also spent the entire day in a time out at home.
He said he was sorry for being mean, for being a bad friend, and for telling them to pull their pants down.
Noone was tied up.
No pants were actually pulled down. He said that after the other two boys took their shirts off (which was not Little Man's idea).
There is a fine line between making too big a deal of things and making sure that lessons are learned and consequences provided.
I'm not sure where this falls, but I would really like to have a mom break about now. I have way too much other crap on my plate and this is just yet another annoying thing weighing me down.